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Do We Really Know Who We Are Dealing With?

  • cynthiafoustvenner
  • Jul 18, 2024
  • 2 min read

Updated: Dec 17, 2025

Nope.


You can have kids with them, date them, be friends with them, associate with them; but do we really truly know who the fuck we are dealing with?


Nope.


And that's scary.


But it is also true.


It's life.


But don't be afraid to call it out.


When it doesn't feel right, don't let it be alright.


Have the courage to call out the bullshit.


Even if it leaves you solo.


Alone.


Because you need to trust in the fact that your courage will be riding shotgun.


It will be your companion, even if you don't see it.


It's there.


Trust me.


Even if this journey of self discovery seems lonely, and it will be; you are better off alone, than with the wrong piece that will never fit into your puzzle.


You cant make a round peg fit into a square hole.


No matter how lonely you may be, don't accept what shouldn't be.


It is that simple.


It will never be worth it.


But you are.


So make sure to get what whatever you want, but do it with caution and limited expectations; also with supreme hopes.


We need to believe in a happy future, correct?


So always know that you are worth a lot more than anyone has ever given you credit for.


Please strive for excellence in yourself as well as your partners, but more importantly, in yourself.


Don't settle.


Actually, never settle.


Don't give up your independence for a moment that you think will provide instant happiness when you are sad.


Pick the soldiers for your army accordingly.


And vet them properly.


And just because they look OK, does not mean they are your forever friends or lovers.


(To my kids): You are all smart as hell.


So live your lives with eyes wide open.


Genetics allowed those traits to remain intact when common sense may have escaped.


Yeah I am honest like like that.


Please use it to you your advantage.


Not all books can be judged by their covers....


But we also must remember to write our own books...


And let your cover be awesome, with a story behind it in which everyone would want to read, and be a character in and thrive.


Xoxo,

C.






 
 
 

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